24/7 Crisis Line

ACT (02) 6280 0900

Other States & Territories 1800 RESPECT

Preparing to leave the relationship:

Quick Escape

Preparing to leave the relationship

It is important to plan ahead as this can make leaving easier and safer. A person who uses violence, abuse and/or controllling behaviours may become more controlling, abusive and dangerous when they believe the person subjected to these behaviours is planning to leave, as this threatens their sense of power and control.

If you have made the decision to leave, it may be useful to consider the following:

  • Call our 24/7 phone line on 6280 0900 to develop a comprehensive, personalised safety plan.
  • Leave money, a set of extra keys and other necessary items with a trusted person.
  • Secure all your important documents, such as birth certificates, cheque books, passports and insurance papers. Alternatively make copies and give the copies to a trusted person.
  • Open a personal bank account, at a bank the person using violence does not use, and make regular deposits to increase your financial independence. But remember to make sure the statements are sent to a secure address or delivered electronically.
  • Consider your accommodation options. If you are unable to stay with family or friends consider contacting OneLink or if possible organising a private rental property.

Contact us

To access our crisis intervention services call our 24/7 crisis telephone line 02 6280 0900.  If it isn’t urgent another contact option is to email crisis@dvcs.org.au; this email is only monitored during business hours. You are welcome to call us reverse charges.  If you live outside the ACT please call 1800RESPECT.

We do not make any sound recordings of our conversations.  You do not need to give us your name, but if you do we make notes that we spoke to you.   If you are unsure, please let us know at the start of the call and we can tell you about our confidentiality policy.